Fighting out Bangladeshi minds: Marriage

০৫ ই সেপ্টেম্বর, ২০১৬ দুপুর ১২:৩৯

I wake up daily with purpose, knowing that I am here for a reason and there are several jobs that need to be done. Now I am bearing a total different kind of mind set now which is like miles away from my Bangladeshi society. Never in my life I settled for mediocre and I always have stayed true to my extraordinary self.
Back in my country, it is considered taboo if a healthy young human being holds back from getting married. It would be viewed as if you are disrespecting your religion's aspect and in the same way you are not participating in a social norm. Even if you do not get marry for a physical or mental condition, chances are that people will still give you weird looks and talk very dirty behind your back. I am like, "Oh come on!" People of Bangladesh just can't take in the fact that a normal individual can still live his or her life without getting married. Under no circumstances you cannot make them change their mind set. 
Before coming to Canada I had a little chat with the Imam of my locality's mosque. He warned me to dress properly even if I wear hijab. This is really common in our culture, elderly people giving lectures to young adults for their so called betterments. And not only this, he also mentioned about putting on niqab along with burka. All his point was to make me a better muslim so that I can attract decent Islamic guys to marry me. Though with a shaky voice I replied him that I don't want to get marry. As obvious he laughed at me and said, "girl you don't have any choice so start preparing yourself." "The sooner, the better." I was all broken inside. I didn't wanted to marry. But who would consult me right? My parents were scared too because I can't work anywhere. Just to let you know Bangladesh is not a very good place if a female wants to work and it's all because of gender imbalance and sexual harassments. So after my parents whose going to pay for my expenses?
I came here in Canada and trust me no one tells to get married. No one would give a damn even if I turn lesbian and go in a relation with another girl. About work place, they maintain a high standard ensuring that no sexual harassment or gender imbalance is taking place. It feels so good in here. I feel so motivated staying around this people.
I now strongly believe that my hustle is impeccable and my strength is limitless. I will work and pay for own bills without getting married. Whatever I will want, I will try keeping my focus in conquering it no matter how long it takes. You cannot tell me what do, get in my way or try to put me on display. It's all depends upon my sole decision, my very own consent now.
Everyday I wake up and go forward in life, I move with light and try very hard to better myself and that's what make me true to myself. The more time and effort I put into myself, the better I get. I got a mind of my own, and missions which I will complete oneday. So grateful to be in such wonderful country which brought forward all my inner potentials and positivities.

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