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০৭ ই মে, ২০১৫ রাত ৮:৪৬

খুব সংক্ষিপ্ত ভাবে:

জানিনা অন্যরা কিভাবে দেখে এ বিষয়টি। কিন্তু আমি কোরআন যতটুকু বুঝলাম, বড় কোনো ঘটনা ছাড়া কোরআন seperation পছন্দ করেনা। এই বড় ঘটনা হতেপারে - অবৈধ সম্পর্ক নিজের বিবাহিত partner এর বাইরে অথবা নিজের অথবা নিজের partnarer এমন কোনো রোগ আছে যা বড় ধরনের (যা cure হয়না) ক্ষতি করতে পারে।

আমাদের এ জীবন চলার পথে সামান্য কিছু ভালো নালাগলেই seperation -এ যেতে চাই।তাহলে প্রশ্ন থাকে - marriage এবং cohabitaion -র মধ্যে পার্থক্য কি



Cohabitation embarks upon trial marriage/ examining each other/ flexibility/ leaving each other if doesn't match ultimately. Question is what actually we want to match and wants actually we give each other throughout this period. Throughout this period we give sex but lack of love diverts us to seek someone else. Question may come up - is there any guarantee that next (2nd one) person would be the right one after being lived together. Is there is any certainty that next or next person would be the right one for my life?



Where is the problem then? Or what would be the solution of this dilemma whether I will give a go with current one or find alternative one?



A rational stance can be flourished by some words such as -

what is the DNA of my love?

If my DNA of love is - "feeling him/her in first meeting/first look"

whatever I am experiencing afterwards are major problems or minor issues.



Can we say love means sacrifice?

Is the problem I am experiencing is curable

would it kill my life?

If not then these are minor problems which can be cured by patience in light of the notion of sacrifice.



A conclusion can be made from the forgoing analysis that if one say "I love you" and after a couple of days leave me alone out of minor reasons, it can be presumed that he/she had not had DNA of love in the first stage or he/she forgets/doesn't know what is the DNA of his/her love.



Indeed, the notion of love is rightly satisfied by marriage concept, not cohabitation. So now think about whether you love one or you want to try him/her. If you have DNA of love, you would not have suspicion to marry him/her



However, after all we got to "help each other" to be together.

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