Marriage is no longer important for new generation of girls

২৪ শে মার্চ, ২০২৫ সকাল ১০:০৯

Nargis Rashid

The new generation of girls has come a long way. Marriage is no longer important to them. Their thinking consciousness, attitude has now undergone a radical change. They are studying, working, doing business, earning income Life has changed. They are traveling around the world. They have learned a lot from women in developed countries, where little by little women have asserted their rights. Learned to understand that due to lack of education, women become weak due to lack of income, their moral strength decreases, they become weak mentally. Marriage. They protest. Their mothers and aunts were given in marriage at that age without a school final. Soon after, many girls of today's generation know the true story of their pregnancy, giving birth to four or ten children one after another, losing their health and becoming a lifelong patient, the pain of losing and helplessness. The bad side of all this is understood a lot. Even in the developed world, women were once thought of as instruments of child production.
He was not paid any price. They did not have money in their hands. However, after a lot of struggle, they have realized their rights, today they have protected their honor. Why will our new generation of girls be less?



Taking care of children is a huge task all the time. If a girl does all the housework all day, where is the time to raise a child? Men can carry out their professional activities without any restrictions. On the other hand, there are various obstacles in the society waiting for girls. Part-time childcare centers are available for rent, but they are very expensive. Almost all the income of the world goes to him. For most of the girls in the South Asian subcontinent, it seems to be a custom for girls to go to the father-in-law's house and take care of the house; But there will be no power in anything. This idea of ​​injustice has become a normal thing that is very difficult to get out of.

Domestic violence inside the house is not only physical, women are tortured mentally by insulting them, women are tortured in many ways by showing unnecessary patriarchal arrogance and various other disciplines. There is all this oppression of not giving dowry to the bridegroom at the time of marriage. The marriage of a girl is like selling her daughter to the bridegroom by sacrificing her own money, honor and wealth to the bridegroom.

The pain of girls is not less in the society of developed countries. In Western developed countries, husband and wife open a joint account with two people. Usually, two people run a family together and buy a house together. However, if there are children, the mother usually goes to take care of him, then the income stops and the riots start. The situation of those who are abroad in our subcontinent is such that the income of the wife is the income of the husband, all the income of the wife has to be given to the husband. She has to take care of the kids, cook fresh every day, make fresh hand-made bread in the morning for breakfast. Husband will not do housework. In addition dowry has to be paid. Women from the country, most of us who have come to live abroad for the first time may have endured these hardships, but the new generation of girls or our children born abroad will not tolerate the injustices that befell their mothers. The riots were inevitable then.

In our subcontinent, China, South Asia and Africa, the social norms in these areas are that when the parents are old, it is the responsibility of their son to look after the old parents. But that doesn't usually happen in developed western countries. In the western developed countries, those who earn a living, get a job, pay taxes in different sectors and then get paid. One of these sectors is social security or social welfare. This is where small savings to spend in old age or after retirement are deposited. Those who want to be better in retirement life save a little more money in the retirement fund separately, if there is surplus money they buy insurance for insurance for retirement life. Older people do not have to rely on their children as they have more or less money to spend on themselves in old age and some other government facilities like medical treatment, low cost food, accommodation. The society here also follows such a system and expects the same behavior. If there was such a system in our homeland, the kindness of the boy would not be needed. If our country had such a social system for all, then we would not have to depend on anyone. Until the birth of a son, a woman does not have to do dangerously difficult tasks like childbirth. Now that China, Japan and other East Asian countries have all kinds of social security or social welfare, they also want a beautiful small family.

In our country, marriage means uncertainty about the girl's life. Pushing a girl in a country as big as marriage before she grows up physically and mentally. If the groom is bad then the girl's life becomes miserable. The husband either burns her in the fire, strangles her, burns her with acid, stabs her or hangs her, or the girl may commit suicide out of shame to escape. All the joys of childhood, adolescence and education of girls are taken away from her, she is not allowed to stand on her own feet, she is given to her parents, this is our society. This is the life of an average girl on average. She can't go anywhere in danger, society doesn't accept her, all the blame falls on that woman. Being born a girl in our homeland is still a birth sin.

Many people in our country think that girls in western countries are not worldly. Divorce occurs for little reason. That's not true. No one wants to break up the family easily. Many men in muscle strength are the same in all countries. Earlier, the girls here were just as helpless as the women of our country. Gradually they have gained strength. So when men abuse their instincts, girls do not give up. Divorce occurs. However, it is not true that girls do not do anything here and there. Here everyone generally practices equal rights.

If you want to come and live in Europe, America or a developed country, get a job in a mainstream profession or be a truly effective person in the society, you have to know the history and culture of that country. We need to know the political structure there and understand the state system. People of different castes, their religion, caste, tolerance and empathy must be well understood. Know the language as much as possible. You should not belittle others. Far away, our new generation is growing up and living with the modern ideas of the 21st century, they should not be seen with the orthodox ideas of Bengal or Bangladesh. Everything is different in their thinking and consciousness, it would be ridiculous and ineffective to guide religion only with local words. If they insist, they will move away from almost everything in the country. Orthodox parents who come to the developed western countries with a kind of preconceived notion or idea from the country will be in danger if they want to run their children with that idea. Girls know their rights. They learn. It is taught from school that there is no difference between boys and girls. They grow up learning equal rights, equal opportunities etc. Boys and girls will not accept the unjustified or irrational words of their parents, they can call the police, and the law will give them shelter.

The social norm of Bangladesh is that the children of the girl's family do not belong to the family of the girl or grandparents but the children born in the boy's family belong to the family of the boy or grandfather One strange rule. The daughter's share in the father's property is half or less than the son's share, while the children are born with half of the parents' DNA. Yet these injustices are done to women. This system of division of property also humiliates a girl. What kind of judgment is this? This is a gross injustice. Social injustices continue to deprive girls.

The developed world society has changed even more, it is constantly improving, their mentality has also changed drastically. We have to change the society, people and women of our country. We have to change the mentality. People have learned to think well now.

In developed countries there is half share of husband and wife and in the Indian subcontinent there are dowry troubled families. Abroad, here the family is like a business. Marriage is the contract of that organization. In all these countries, girls now want to stay away from the marriage system. Women want to be independent, because a woman here is no less than a man. Marriage is almost unnecessary. This is the twenty-first century. Women are moving forward now, they have come out of the old idea. Women in developed countries are now much more aware of their rights. These countries are women friendly, there are laws to protect women, there are law enforcement. Girls are highly educated, they can earn a lot of money, they are self-respecting and they are not dependent.

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